Turns every instruction into a negotiation.

Bedtime is a proposal. Shoes are a proposal. You did not open a discussion and you are having one anyway.

The word that gets used is defiant. Strong willed, if the person is being kind.

But watch what happens when the reason is good and given plainly. The argument usually stops. What reads as resistance is often a request for a reason.

An Explorer pushes on the rule, not on you. Once you can tell those apart, most of the friction goes somewhere useful.